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by GratefulGrace from Denton

Last Post 103 days, 3 hours Ago


Our neighbors across the street, Heather and Brandon became foster parents with the intent to adopt after being told they couldn't have children three years ago.  Two years ago, they became foster parents to 2 little boys ages 4 and 6 who were taken from their mother and her boyfriend for neglect and exposure to drugs.  The mother signed over her rights and is now in jail.  Shortly after coming into Heather and Brandon’s home, the older boy began acting out sexually.  He was kicked out of school and sent to an inpatient behavior center.  He is still there and no longer a foster child.   A year and a half ago Heather and Brandon got a beautiful one year-old baby girl.  Her birth mother was a young teen and gave up all rights.  Claire is a thriving, happy and healthy toddler.  The other little boy, Michael, however, began showing signs similar to his brother this past year.  Last spring he assaulted Claire (Heather walked in to Claire’s screams and he was touching her private area through her diaper).  Similar episodes have happened at school in his kindergarten class, Brandon installed an alarm on the boy’s door, and Claire is supervised constantly.  Heather immediately reported this to the agencies facilitating the foster care of the children and has been working to get Michael removed from her house.  He is a registered sex offender and CPS and the other agencies have been  so slow to get him out of their home and into a foster home where there are no other siblings he could hurt.  Finally,  they got a call yesterday from their agency saying that CPS will be coming to get Michael next Wednesday but they also said they would be taking Claire too.  They gave no reason for this and CPS didn’t even bother talking to them personally.  They are absolutely devastated.  The wheels were already in motion for Heather and Brandon to adopt Claire.   My neighbors’ attorney is working to put a hold on this and attempting to get this before a judge, but evidently this is not easy to do. 

 

 

 

Time and time again CPS has devastated lives of children and parents.  They are a prime example of government trying to run and ruin the lives of people and there is nothing anyone can do about it.

 

 

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chardoney read my blog view my photos
Jul 17, 2008 | 7:47 PM

Really a sad story, but most of CPS involvements don't go well. I hope they'll be able to keep the other child. They must be devastate.

Marks read my blog view my photos
Jul 17, 2008 | 8:32 PM

CPS is a government bureaucracy. Your tax dollars at work. I'm wondering if the couple will be charged for either neglect or facilitation?

ProudAmerican read my blog view my photos
Jul 17, 2008 | 9:05 PM

That's just horrible, I hope it all works out for them.

luvmykid read my blog
Jul 17, 2008 | 10:25 PM

My prayers go out to this couple. I pray that they judge will do the right thing and continue with the adoption.

CPS Sucks!!! Never there when they are needed and always mess up childrens lives.

Keep praying.

daniel_b read my blog view my photos
Jul 17, 2008 | 10:30 PM

Hey Gracie,

I worked in foster care for years and saw first-hand how incompetant the system can be. In Texas, CPS is grossly underfunded and caseworkers get sent straight from the college classroom and into the field with no practical knowledge of what they (caseworkers) are actually doing. Foster parenting is funded by a classification system based on the level of behaviors exhibited by each child, otherwise known as "level of care". What you commonly see are cases of psychological reviews of children being clouded and outright falsified in order to keep level of care considerations to a low level, and correspondingly, cheap for the state. Unfortunately, many foster parents receive psych evaluations and treatment considerations that do not fully explain the true therapeutic and emotional needs of the children that are being accepted into foster homes. The incompetance and corruption of the system not only complicates the difficulties faced by children placed in homes that they should have never been placed in, but also turns compassionate people (such as your neighbors) into victims. Truly sad...

GratefulGrace read my blog view my photos
Jul 17, 2008 | 11:42 PM

Amazing Daniel.

This couple had started marital counseling this past spring because of the strain all of this has put on their marriage. This raised a red flag with CPS and they noted that their marriage was "unstable". They are in counseling to strengthen their marriage so they will be better parents!!!!!!

daniel_b read my blog view my photos
Jul 18, 2008 | 12:03 AM

Outrageous when government decides that a marriage is unstable....




Hey Gracie, I've tried to email you -

illusionsssss read my blog
Jul 18, 2008 | 1:15 AM

OMFG> People trying to "help"....


Is this genetics, or is it learned behavior?

My guess is that genetics plays a huge role.............
some people are inbred as$holes???

Dak413 read my blog view my photos
Jul 18, 2008 | 6:35 AM

Txas is not the only state CPS is bad, I think most are, I had an answering service and took calls for CPS, and decided to bevome a reciving Home for them in another state, (Washington) we were licened for 2, and had up to 6. he was seeming a reallly good kid, that had run away from every receiving home he had been in , we asked why, his reply was He shouldn't be in one, He had no problems at home, and didn't know why He couldn't be there, all he wanted was to be able to go Home I rhink by CPS rules there is no way, any parent can possibly raise children by there rules, so no matter how well ya are doing, they can come up with anexcuse to trmove children,and the children are usually the last one to know why they were removed from their home and parents as well, they have to wait for a court hearing to find out, it is a very defunct system , run by unqualified people, that have no experience raising kids , and the onesthat do have kids , usually no best how to work them to get their own way , using the CPS system .

TexanInfidel read my blog view my photos
Jul 18, 2008 | 8:08 AM

There are some good people working for CPS but they are generally run off or beaten down by the "man". A good friend of mine prosecuted terrible parents but would find out months later that even though daddy had broken Susie's arm and molested her, a judge was sending Susie back to live with him. She quit and went to teach law.

Another friend of ours is an investigator. She got tired of taking kids out of truly terrible homes because THOSE are the people that will fight like wild animals to prove that the system is against them. Sadly, it is easier to take a child out of a "questionable" home than a truly abusive one.

GratefulGrace read my blog view my photos
Jul 18, 2008 | 9:24 AM

Texan,

I'm sure there are good people working there but that doesn't negate the fact that CPS as an entity is out of control, an extension of government which has no heart or soul, and about to ruin yet another child's life.

Most soc. majors have good hearts and in college want to make a difference. I don't doubt that there are some good people working working for CPS.

Daniel, your email addy didn't transfer with my addresses when I closed out hotmail. Email me at gratefulgrace78@yahoo.com!

ONELANGUAGE read my blog
Jul 18, 2008 | 10:51 AM

I've been a foster parent for 9 yr's I have had some good workers and then there have been some that made us want to get out of fostercare ,but we hung in there. The other problem with the system is CASA they think they are THE LAW ,they don't help the kids at all just make life miserable for the foster parents. They took Claire out because they probably look at it as the parents did not keep her safe.

GratefulGrace read my blog view my photos
Jul 18, 2008 | 11:07 AM

That's what I'm thinking One. Even though they did all the right things by 1)reporting it, 2) putting an alarm on his door, 3) constant supervision after the boy began acting out in that way, 4) trying since last spring to get him out of the house. They are the ones not keeping the little girl safe!!!

TexanInfidel read my blog view my photos
Jul 18, 2008 | 11:29 AM

I was just playing devil's advocate by pointing out that there are some really good people working for CPS who get screwed by the beauracracy. I agree that they make stupid decisions. All you can do is write write write, call call call,until it gets resolved.

GratefulGrace read my blog view my photos
Jul 18, 2008 | 11:34 AM

I hear ya Texan.

oldi read my blog view my photos
Jul 22, 2008 | 4:03 AM

I hope and pray that Heather and Brandon are able to adopt the baby girl. It seems that the CPS did not pay attention to all of the details of what was actually going on in this home. Someone probably skimmed over a report and did not think things through. Very sad situation.

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