TeriRose's Blog

Oh Dear Lost...Kids are soooo DIFFERENT nowadays! My question would have to be at this point, what is her urgency?? There is almost always, alterior motive for these thoughts and actions. You have to ask WHY, regardless of her age, is she wanting to make this move? I have 2 daughters, soon to be 25 and the other 19 years of age. Maybe she needs to talk with other kids who have moved and realized it was a HUGE and STUPID mistake. Children do not take the advice of parents very often...kids believe that it's the parent's selfish reasons for wanting them to stay or the parent's just trying to control them. My girls still live at home...they have learned just from speaking with their friends who made the HORRIBLE mistake of moving out and thinking they could make it on their own. Because in all honesty, they absolutely thought about it and wanted to go through with it!! After an extended time of thinking, I had to give my girls a little more liberty to come and go as they wanted, with absolute discretion of where and with WHOM, and I think that's the start of most kids problems in that they are restricted from doing things they enjoy. What I would do, if she doesn't have any friends with personal experience where this concerned...agree with her, just say YES, sure you can move out, but then put on paper: How much money do you make a month? How much will your rent be per month? How much are your utilities going to cost? Car?(provided she gets a license) Insurance? Food? Kids are sometimes so caught up in what they believe to be the "COOL" thing to do as opposed to the res

I moved out of my parents house at 18 and I turned out just fine. They didn't really support me after that (although we were still on good terms so I could have asked for help if I really needed it).

I guess it also depends on how responsible and mature your daughter is. I moved away to go to college, not to get into trouble.

txbrunette64,
Thank you for responding. We have gone over a budget with her. We have tried numbers of different things with her. She is so angry and deffiant right now. I have a name and number of a therapist for her. She said she would not go. I have been trying everything. All her her "friends" are free to come and go as they please. She runs with a crowd that have no parent supervision. So of course we are the bad parents because we have rules and curfews for her. We care about her and she does not want any of that right now. My parents have even offered to let her come stay with them in a different city, where she also has friends, to finish high school. I let her know everyday that she is too smart and intellegent to do this. She is seeing her friends that have already moved out at a young age and they seem to be livin the good life. Ya know kids, everything is now, not later. She had a doctor appointment today and I let her doctor know about what was going on and that doctor let her have it. He really told her point blank how it really is. So, We are just praying and trying to lead by example for her. I have been down this road myself. I see where she is headed and I can't stop her. What can ya do?

Three of my children moved out before they were ready and unfortunately lost their childhood dreams because life has a way of changing things.

It took years for my oldest to come to a point where she was not hurting herself or her family with the decisions she made. As for my youngest, he has left home twice both times setting him back months. The last time I just went and put my foot down and told him "You are coming back home and you are going to school:PERIOD!" For him he gets confused listening to all his friends tell him this or that or his siblings tell him he needs to get out on his own. It is frustrating for me simply because I know he is not prepared for the world.

When I was his age, yes you could go out and make it in the world w/o more than a high school education but now: noway is that possible. He actually seems to be happier since he came back home recently. I believe children should leave home based on their level of maturity. Just because brother one moved out and it worked nicely for him does not mean sister 3 will have the same life skills.

That is just my opinion.

I would love to talk with you "off the blog" but not sure how to get my info to you to make contact with me...any suggestions?

Teri,
That is the best news ever! It sounds as if she is coming around or someone maybe got to sit her down and talk with her...whatever the case it sounds to be working out for the best. Best of Luck to you all and our prayers are with you guys!