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A new Census bureau report shows that more American women are waiting to have children, and more than ever before are choosing to remain childless.

According to the report in the New York Times, twenty percent of women aged 40 to 44 have no children. That's double the number from just thirty years ago.

Though it's becoming more common, I'm not sure that the choice to remain childless is as socially acceptable as having children in your 40s.

I know a couple in their early 40s, married for 15 years, who decided early in their marriage to not have children. The wife has been on the receiving end of all kinds of unbelievably rude comments about her "duty" and her "purpose" in life. As if someone else can tell you what your purpose in life is.

What do you think? Is it selfish for women to put off childbearing until the last possible second? Is it a good idea for some people to avoid being parents? Tell me your thoughts.



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NORTHTX read my blog view my photos
Aug 19, 2008 | 9:10 PM

I passed 40 about 20 years ago. I choose not to have children. One, I thought the man I married after watching him with his nieces and nephews would not be a good father. If I had had kids, that is the one thing I would have wanted most for them. Two, my teen years were spent babysitting my younger sister and I didn't want to give up the freedom that I had once I left home. Am I selfish, yes.

People ask me if I have kids and I tell them no and leave it at that. My sister has a son in his early teens and I look at the way the world is today and worry about what it going to be like when he gets my age.

Having children, just like getting married is a personal decision and if people cannot understand or accept that not all people want that, that's just too bad. I think if your friend call those rude people on the issue when they make comments.

jaywalkingtx_is_back read my blog
Aug 19, 2008 | 9:13 PM

Personally, I think the fewer of you breeders having kids the better. I say wait forever! The world has too many people like you already AK.

alicek read my blog view my photos
Aug 19, 2008 | 9:27 PM

Awww, thanks jaywalking! That's just a sweet way of saying I'm special and unique, isn't it?

GagMe read my blog
Aug 19, 2008 | 9:30 PM

white women better get on the stick and start churning 'em out because the tide is turning

GagMe read my blog
Aug 19, 2008 | 9:51 PM

BTW alice , will you have my baby ?

alicek read my blog view my photos
Aug 19, 2008 | 9:53 PM

Dear GagMe,
Actually i was thinking of having a Hispanic baby. Is that what you meant?

Dallas47_Rocks read my blog view my photos
Aug 19, 2008 | 9:54 PM

Good Evening Alice,

Have you pulled the plug on email notifications? Haven't gotten a single one today.

TexanInfidel read my blog view my photos
Aug 19, 2008 | 10:02 PM

Here's a serious answer for you alice: Waiting until your 40s to have children is begging to have a handicapped child. Your chances for down syndrome increase exponentially the longer you wait.

Too many people are waiting to have children because it is not convenient for them. Please note that I say 'convenient' while stressing the 'eeee' noise very nasal like.

They would rather work more hours or take more vacations or acquire more stuff. If they want to live their lives only for themselves that is their business, but they are missing out.

And as for "is it a good idea for some people to avoid having children"? Yes. But those are the people who have 15 kids by 21 different fathers and drain our economy. Most people are perfectly capable of raising a child to be self-sufficient and healthy.

Have you seen Idiocracy? Definitely not Luke Wilson's brightest hour but it raises a legitimate point. Are intelligent people causing their own extinction?

By the way, I thought I didn't want kids until I had one. Now I want as many as I can afford to send to college. But again, that is something we Americans think about but many other cultures do not.

GagMe read my blog
Aug 19, 2008 | 10:04 PM

alice , could you ignore the dork worried about his e-mail and focus the bliss you and me can achieve ?

TexanInfidel read my blog view my photos
Aug 19, 2008 | 10:08 PM

Alice you are a lucky woman to have such devoted followers and eager donors.

GagMe read my blog
Aug 19, 2008 | 10:09 PM

here's a serious answer hunter , gather , whatever ...........hook up with MM

alicek read my blog view my photos
Aug 19, 2008 | 10:11 PM

Dallas_47 Rocks,
Sorry about the email alerts, I think it's a hiccup in the system. Usually when this happens you'll get a bunch of email alerts all at once in a day or so. If you don't have them by mid-afternoon tomorrow please let me know.

alicek read my blog view my photos
Aug 19, 2008 | 10:13 PM

Sorry Gagme, I'm in love with my husband. thanks for the invitation, though.

GagMe read my blog
Aug 19, 2008 | 10:18 PM

SHUCKS :( !!

I love you anyway alice :)

Dallas47_Rocks read my blog view my photos
Aug 19, 2008 | 10:20 PM

Thank You Alice

Is Dan Henry in on the flood of email notifications that will hit us all at once? Just kidding.

ProudAmerican read my blog view my photos
Aug 19, 2008 | 10:26 PM

I know people that didn't have children because they knew they wouldn't be good parents or were afraid they would turn out to be the overly abusive parents like they had. I think they made wise decisions.
Others didn't have them because they didn't want their life styles crimped. Good for them too.

If you don't want kids for whatever reason, that is your choice and you shouldn't let parents, friends or co-workers be rude to you because of that choice.

Orphan
Aug 19, 2008 | 11:37 PM

If a person doesn't want children (for whatever reasons), I most definitely don't think they should have them. Kids are great but they are a lot of work to raise right, and too many people now days don't want to work that hard. More power to people who realize that. Anyone who has an issue for successful couples not having children, is the one with the issues, not the ones choosing not too.

Marks read my blog view my photos
Aug 20, 2008 | 12:52 AM

Just a matter of demographics. If more women of a certain race continue to refuse to have babies, that means the demographic of that particular race will decline. Think Russia...

Forced pregnancy? That would be about as bad as forced abortion.

babysister138 read my blog view my photos
Aug 20, 2008 | 5:57 AM

Did they include all the kids having babies in this survey?

TexanInfidel read my blog view my photos
Aug 20, 2008 | 6:37 AM

They just used women over 40. Hispanic women had slightly more children. SHOCKA!

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