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They thought he was a friend...... There is no real way they could have really seen that coming. Besided he even says his son was trying to help him out with his problems. Not all substance users are thieves or even dishonest and its unwise to lump them all into one category and assume they're all the same. Whatever it is he is using he needs counciling and whatever kind of help that can be offered to get him through it and turn his life around. Granted he stole the car which obviously is against the law and should probably be brought up on charges for grand theft but at the same time Jail is not the best place to send someone with a drug abuse problem, he needs to be in rehab.

acoolone is right. I can understand your anguish, but you need to remember. Most criminal, junkies, drug addicts or whatever you want to call them, know what they can and can't get away with before getting caught in the act.
Hopefully you all learned a lesson in trust. Trust is nothing like it used to be. Let a junkie find your weak link such as sympathy and they will go for the juggler. Sad but true.
It is very hard to raise kids right nowdays. Most parents don't and this is one of the many reasons kids like the "friend" act like they do.

Yes, my son cares a lot about this boy as he is the younger brother of his best friend who passed away. He doesn't want to see him see the same fate as his brother. My son used to do drugs, but when his best friend passed away, that did it for him and he's not touched them since.
And yes, Mr. McDonald, you're right, jail is not a good place for a junkie because it doesn't teach you how to have the strength that it takes to stay clean--I know, I'm an ex-junkie myself and have been to jail. You get treated like you're not a human being, but a cow being loaded in for the slaughter, and you have to fight for even basic civil rights. But sometimes that's where your recovery has to start. My faith in Jesus Christ and the unconditional love of my family has helped me to stay clean (3 years sober).
The kid is a runaway from a home that is not the most desirable, and I know that the only reason why he did this is because of the drugs he's been using. The kid I've known for the past two years is courteous and respectful, and would never think of doing anything to hurt us--but being on drugs, he's not the same kid that I knew, and this isn't the only thing he's done (though it's the only thing he's done to us) and I feel that he needs to learn like everybody else that you can't just do what you please with other people's things and get away with it. He's never been in trouble before, so he probably would've only gotten a "slap on the wrist" and some probation anyway.
Knowing his personal situation, a part of me feels sorry for him and understands why he's gone so "wild", b

sad but true...they have to have proof. they have to witness it etc. it's like the law with drinking. if they do not witness you driving the vehicle and you crash...they can't bust you on it. well, they can arrest you but charges will not stick.
i honestly don't believe cops go into being cops and then have the attitude "nothing we can do about it". i disagree with that. the cops don't make the money from writing tickets. your son should be very careful hangin' out with this kid. you know, the guilty by association, wrong place wrong time thing. if he is a junky, he needs pro. help, and it's not fair to lay that on your son.

CD - I am so glad to hear your personal story of overcoming adversity. Please share it with all who will listen. Like Bella said though, think about your son's safety. I'm glad your son wants to help but what happens if the next time they are together some other junkie wants to settle a score or your son's friend gets caught for possession..?

Well, first of all, to clear some things up......I didn't put my son in this situation, it's something he took upon himself out of his concern for the kids welfare. His older brother passed away at our home in Dec. of 2006. His death was ruled as accidental, being the result of the use of illicit drugs over an extended period of time, and a heart defect he had which none of us knew about.
My frustration with the police is that, after the kid admitted to taking the keys and having alterior motives when he asked to be brought to our home, they still excused it. I feel that as "public servants" being paid by the government, just like the teachers in our schools, it is their responsibility to help us parents teach our children of actions and consequences, and I just don't feel like this was done. However, they are more than willing to pull MY SON over and harass him about driving 27 in a 25! I am also disappointed in their inability to aid me in another situation involving a theft that occurred, but I don't have the room to get into that incident here. If they would concentrate more on being interested in helping people instead of harassing them for petty things, we might not have the troubles that we do in our neighborhoods.

ChatterBug quote:i honestly don't believe cops go into being cops and then have the attitude "nothing we can do about it". i disagree with that. the cops don't make the money from writing tickets.

I didn't say cops made money for writing tickets, but their municipalities sure do. And having known a few cops personally it doesn't take them very long to become very jaded due to weak sentencing and arresting the same criminals over and over.

Orphan please keep in mind that even if the drug is legal,(alcohol), the ability to make good, sound decisions is impaired. Just because alcohol is legal does not make it any less dangerous, and deadly.