Skootzkitty's Litter Box of Stuff

But why? I mean there are ethics involved. True that I would want to know, but in my thinking it is also private and the choice would be do I violate my loved ones privacy because they are dead - where is the line? I wouldn't do it if they were alive, so where is the line? Should there be a line? It is, for myself anyways, an ethical v moral decision. WHICH is right? Is one more right than the other and if so why?

I have an in law who committed suicide.

My thought on this is if we can find out why they did it maybe it could prevent furter sucides. Some of these private issues need to be investigated privately of course. How are we to go fix or try to help a problem if we never know what the problem was to begin with? More harm than good can become from speculation.

Sometimes people are in so much pain it comsumes them. Even though they may have friends and family they love the pain is overbearing. Suicicde is a way out. A lot of people commit suicide because of depression. A lot think it is their only way out. It leaves the ones behind never being able to be at peace or understand it. They always are gonna think "I could/should have done something. Suicide has become so popular that things/laws need to change to better understand the symptoms and why this is happening. There needs to more than a "suicide hotline". There are drugs now to help with depression. Back in the day you were labeled "crazy if you saw a shrink or therapist". Some people need to talk to someone who is a third party so to speak. But I think now more than ever when you care for someone and things began to change we need to try to help in some way.

Right - but that was on MYS. Not really private....but emails so is there a line?

Nancy and bella - been there. I was so depressed I DID think it was a way out of the incredible pain I felt. Almost was 'sucessful' [if you can term it that way] except for a perceptive black cat named Mercury who jumped up on the tub and knocked the razor blade out of my hand. That single little act by an animal who I loved, brought me out of the fog to stare in horror at a bathtub full of hot water. Made a call not 5 mins later and got help. Thanks Mer-Mer!! I miss you!

That aside - would it have been right for my folks to try to find emails as to why? I didn't leave a note for anyone, I didn't tell anyone - not my folks [my dad was as your decribe Bella - when I told him i was in therapy he asked if I was crazy, nice] none of my friends in the BBS community, no one I worked with, not my LTR [because he thought depression was BS] no one. So would invading my privacy for no reason have been ethical?

BINGO! I was hoping someone would come to that conclusion! : )

I knew where I would go - question is would I have had to come back and do it all over as I would have taken an 'easy' way out for myself? Yeah no thanks - rode the ride so far, might as well finish it, get the t-shirt then it's off to the pampered life of a housecat [my nirvana] *lol*

Yeah - they sent out a communication here saying to limit personal emails. I am here so much anymore that I got a PDA to communicate while chained to my desk *lol*

So are mine *lol* Tho Adso is still a bit miffed about the addition of Reno [a DOG?! How DARE you human!] it's nothing bonkies, a few new kushies, and some catnip won't fix ; )